Be grateful, be kind

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Our readings today urge us to be mindful – to think about what we think about, and about what we feel, say and do. We are invited to not simply react instinctively, but to consider how we react. Our thoughts and reactions impact ourselves and others, whether we are mindful or thoughtless, whether we are grateful or thankless, whether we are kind or harmful. We are urged to be grateful and kind.

In John 6:41-51, the people who had just had the blessing of being part of the Jesus’ feeding of the 5,000 (men, plus women and children) with fish and bread. You’d think they’d be grateful, but no, they were not. And then Jesus counsels them to not settle for bread that goes stale and moldy, but rather to seek after the Bread from heaven, that never spoils, but endures to eternal life (6:27). He even shares with them that God has sent him as the true bread from heaven and that he gives life to the world.

Still, they grumble and mutter. They remember him growing up in his family and cannot imagine that he could be the bread from heaven. “How can he now say, ‘I came down from heaven?'” Thankless they are! And Jesus chastises them: “Stop grumbling among yourselves!” One senses Jesus’ growing frustration, not only with how earth-bound they are (bread is more valuable to them than God the Son), but also with their unwillingness to see him for who he is.

And so he repeats “Very truly I tell you, the one who believes has eternal life.” And, “I am the bread of life.” And, “Your ancestors ate the manna in the wilderness, yet they died.” And, “But here is the bread that comes down from heaven, which anyone may eat and not die.” How much clearer can he be! You can hear his exasperation with these ungrateful and close-minded people. And so he repeats, “I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats this bread will live forever.” And in case they still don’t get it (which they don’t!), he concludes, “This bread is my flesh! I will give it for the life of the world!”

And how do they respond? They “began to argue sharply among themselves.” Eish, the frustration of Jesus that we should be so mindless and so thankless. Here he is, offering us eternal life, right in our midst, and all we do is grumble, moan and argue.

Jesus calls us to a spirit of gratitude – to be grateful that the bread from heaven has come down into our midst, and to cast aside regular bread and instead feast on this heavenly bread that leads us to eternal life.

Paul, in the closing verses of Ephesians 4, similarly calls the Ephesians (whom he profoundly blessed in Ephesians 1 – you can catch my sermon on that here) to be kind to one another. Having been blessed with God’s greatest and most enduring and satisfying gifts (much as Jesus does in John 6), Paul calls us to be kind and considerate to each other. He calls us to set aside falsehood, anger, theft, laziness, unwholesome talk, grieving the Holy Spirit, bitterness, rage, anger, brawling, slander and malice. It’s quite a list!

And instead, Paul calls us to speak truthfully, not to let the sun go down without resolving our anger, to work, to do something useful, to share with those in need, to speak helpful words, to build other up according to their needs, to be kind, to be compassionate, to forgive others, to live a life of love, to follow God’s example.

Paul calls us to be kind – to be considerate, thoughtful, sensitive and helpful to other people, in just the same way that Jesus is with us – since Jesus loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.

This message – be grateful, be kind – may seem twee and insincere and lefty. But it is core to Jesus’ message, and therefore core to the message of apostles, like Paul, and therefore core to my message as a pastor today, and should therefore be core to how you live your own life.

Of course, we fail. Some of you will have experience me being ungrateful and unkind. I and we can do better. Thankfully, though, we have a God who knows that we fail, and who has already been kind, loving and forgiving of us. We simply come back to him, say we’re sorry, ask for forgiveness, and pray for strength and grace to do better: to be grateful and to be kind. Amen.

Forgiveness

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Today we are reading from Matthew 18, which has a series of parables and teachings about the life of the church, culminating in a teaching on forgiveness. The central verse is, perhaps, v22, where, in response to Peter’s question, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answers, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times” (or 70 time 7 times).

The whole chapter speaks about relationships between us and our brothers and sisters in the church:

  • First Jesus  reminds us that greatness is relative, and that if we want to be great, we need to be like little children. (Mat 18:1-5)
  • He then cautions us to avoid doing anything that might cause others (“little ones”) to stumble. Indeed, he goes as far to say that we should mutilate ourselves, rather than cause someone to stumble. (Mat 18:6-9)
  • Then we get the parable of the wandering sheep. A shepherd as 100 sheep and one goes missing. He leaves the 99 to seek out the one. Jesus emphasises the great joy in heaven resulting from the rescue of the one, and refers to them again as ‘little ones’. This passage speaks about love seeking – God is always seeking us out, even just the one, even just a ‘little one’. God is seeking – we need to be seeking. (Mat 18:10-14)
  • Then we have a teaching about how to handle sin in the church – when our sister or brother sins. Jesus presents a nuanced series of challenges – first you go on your own, then you take one or two people with you (again quietly and personally), then you inform the church (presumably the leadership) and they go (again quietly and personally) to challenge the person, and finally, says Jesus, we “treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector”. We might think Jesus means to cast them out, to excommunicate them. But Jesus’ encounters with pagan Romans (Luke 7:1-10) and tax collectors (Luke 19:1-10) are to engage with them, not to cast them out. Love challenges and confronts, but in a way that embraces rather than rejects. (Mat 18:15-20)
  • Finally, we have the parable of the unmerciful servant, where a servant owes his king a lot of money, but cannot pay it back. He begs for mercy and the kind cancels his debt. The servant meets someone who owes him a few bucks, demands payment and when he cannot pay, he casts him into jail. The king is outraged at his lack of mercy, given that he had cancelled the far larger debt of the servant, and has him cast into jail. Love forgives, and is willing to forgive greatly and repeatedly. (Mat 18:21-35)
  • The passage ends with a warning, “Thus also my heavenly Father will do to every single one of you who does not forgive your brother or sister, and forgive from the bottom of your heart” (v35). Through these very strong and threatening words, Jesus is conveying the central importance of forgiveness. We have been forgiven much; should we not also forgive others?

Jesus teaching in this chapter presents a picture of a health church and of healthy human relationships – we do not look down on anyone; we are considerate of others and avoid causing them harm; we value the group but we also value the individual, even seemingly unimportant individuals; we challenge wrongdoing, but in a way that embraces and restores; and we forgive those who do wrong against us, again and again, in the same way that God forgives us, again and again. If we could do all this – in the power of Holy Spirit – what a church we would have!

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