Jesus’ teaching referred to as the beatitudes is a series of blessings for those who espouse Jesus’ value framework, a framework that is countercultural, that is, not aligned with the majority culture of this world. In this message, I interpret Jesus’ beatitudes for family life. It is my hope that this will enrich our families and strengthen the quality of love we have between each other. Watch the 25-minute video message and/or read my notes below that.
Matthew 5:3-10 presents Jesus’ beatitudes. A ‘beatitude’ is a ‘blessing’, to be blessed, to feel blessed, to feel great joy.
Beatitude in Hebrew is ‘esher’, which means to be happy, to advance, to make progress, to go forward, be lead on, to be relieved
But the things that Jesus says bless us are not easy! They are countercultural, particularly in today’s corporate, rapacious, ambitious, self-seeking world. This echoes Paul’s sentiment in 1 Corinthians 1:27, “God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things, and the things that are not.” The beatitudes focus us on inner character traits, not just external actions – who you actually are.
In this message, I want to apply the beatitudes to marriage and family. I have them out below in point form. The = is an interpretation of the beatitude in principle, while * is an application of the beatitude to family life. By ‘family life’ I mean relationships between partners, parents and children:
- Blessed are the poor in spirit
=spiritual neediness & fragility (opposite of strength), humility, smallness
*approach our family without pride, acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers, rely together on God’s grace
*recognise and accept that life can be hard, work to be safe to be vulnerable with one another, affirm that we’re all in this together - Blessed are those who mourn
=mourn over our brokenness, recognise how we fall far short of God’s intentions for us, our tears express our soft heart
*comfort family members in grief, anxiety, breakups, failed test, bad day
*grieve if you accidentally or intentionally hurt a family member - Blessed are the meek
=patiently bear the sufferings of life, react calmly to conflict instead of lashing out, this is best expressed in Christ’s passion on the cross
*meekness is not weakness, it is strength under control, engage family with respect and gentleness, avoid harsh words, you don’t always have to win - Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness
=A longing for holiness, Christ-likeness, justice, virtue, mercy, to be in a right relationship with God
*Christ at the centre of our home is manifest in the fruit of the spirit (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control), do not tolerance any behaviour that could harm another, work always to be in a right relationship with one another - Blessed are the merciful
=Showing mercy=easily forgiving, waiving debts, giving generously, even self-sacrificially
*Families built on forgiveness, avoid grudges, don’t go to bed angry, choose compassion, model God’s willingness to reconcile - Blessed are the pure in heart
=Pure=clean, avoid sin, fruit of the Spirit (see point 4 above), God is ever-present and watching, no secrets
*Guard against outside temptations, set a sacred boundary against sin around your family - Blessed are the peacemakers
=Seeking true good for others, draw God into conflicts, pray without ceasing, “May your will be done on earth as it is in heaven”
*Be willing to lose an argument (winning is not everything), promote unity and safety, dialogue=reciprocal talking - Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness
=After all these, we may still be persecuted, recognize the seriousness of our faith, Christ’s death, ‘because of’ emphasises that the persecution must be because of following Christ’s values NOT because we’re a jerk
*Accept that your stand for sobriety, chastity, church first, and self-sacrifice could lead to ridicule and judgment from others
Read Psalm 15 through eyes of ‘family’:
1 Lord, who may dwell in your sacred tent?
Who may live on your holy mountain?
2 The one whose walk is blameless,
who does what is righteous,
who speaks the truth from their heart;
3 whose tongue utters no slander,
who does no wrong to a neighbor,
and casts no slur on others;
4 who despises a vile person
but honors those who fear the Lord;
who keeps an oath even when it hurts,
and does not change their mind;
5 who lends money to the poor without interest;
who does not accept a bribe against the innocent.
Whoever does these things
will never be shaken.
Micah 6:8 – “What does the Lord require of you? To act justly, to love mercy, to walk humbly with your God”
Blessed be your family




