When child abuse comes to the church

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This message is best watched – it has quite a lot of content. But if you prefer, here are my notes that guided the sermon:

When child abuse comes to the church

  • WhatsApp message from a parishioner on Friday: “Adrian. What’s happening in our Anglican Church?”
  • Church as sanctuary and moral authority
  • But when child abuse comes to the church…
  • Catholic, Hillsong, Conservative Baptists, etc
  • And now Anglican Communion
  • Personal for me:
    • I was sexually exploited by a leader in teens
    • Church could not take a clear stand
    • Silenced, shamed, theology
    • Now I’m a Rector – responsible to safeguard a parish

Context of today’s message

  • Archbishop of Canterbury, Justin, resigned on Tue
  • Archbishop of CofE and of the Anglican communion
  • Our Archbishop, Thabo Makgoba, has been called by some to resign
  • He responded on Wed & Friday, more this week
  • All in a time of splintering around sexuality & gender
  • John Smyth – evangelical lay person
  • Physical beating of children in UK, Zim & SA from 1970s
  • Lived in SA from 2005? to 2018, attended ACSA
  • Physical and sexual abuse rampant churches
  • Children, women, young men
  • This has both theological and pastoral implications

Theologies that may enable abuse in the church

  • Adult authority over children
  • Proverbs 13:24, “Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them”
  • Theologies of salvation
  • God’s requirement of blood for forgiveness
  • Glorification of Jesus violent death – blood blood
  • Predominance of masculine values
  • power, control, hierarchy, authority, sexism
  • Leaders answer to God only, not men
  • Free to do as they please – little oversight
  • Theologies of forgiveness
  • RC confession, absolution, wiped clean, as if
  • Seal of the confessional
  • Conspiracy – cover-up each other
  • Theologies of sanctification
  • Belief in capacity for personal reform
  • Second chances
  • Belief in the basic goodness of everyone (despite Paul’s even our best like dirty rags)

Pastoral implications: What should we do?

  • Pastoral implications 1: Open eyes
  • Church easy pickings
  • Adults: clever, deceptive, duplicit, psychop
  • Children: model, ignorance, curiosity, empathy
  • Victims: threatened, coerced, made complicit > shame & fear>silence
  • Perps: hard to believe they’d do that
  • Fear: false accusations can destroy one
  • Pastoral implications 2: Theological stance
  • Theology of love is central
  • God’s love for every person – better or worse
  • God’s image of a united humanity under Christ
  • Church should be a sanctuary, safe community
  • A place for redemption, healing, transformation
  • ACSA Code of Pastoral Standards
  • Safe & Inclusive Church: Disclosure by all leaders
  • Separate, independent – they investigate
  • Google: Safe Church Guide
  • Need to be more diligent about this – Jan annually
  • Pastoral implications 3: Actions
  • We are all broken and fall short of God’s glory
  • We are all capable of harming self and others
  • There is potential for redemption & forgiveness
  • Potential for transformation & wholeness
  • But we are all on a journey
  • Talk with your children about safety, touching
  • Listen to your children when they raise issues
  • Don’t be naïve (mini-perps)
  • Keep your eyes and ears open
  • Listen to your intuition (Holy Spirit’s whisper)
  • Intervene if immediate & safe
  • Speak to me, wardens, councillors
  • If me, speak to wardens or archdeacon or bishop
  • Contact Safe Church – email, form
  • Pastoral implications 4: Prayer
  • Let us pray for the church, leaders & children
  • Pray for wholeness and holiness for us all
  • Pray for victims – healing and restoration
  • Pray for perpetrators – HS conscience and empathy
  • Pray for leaders – standards, conviction
  • Pray for safeguarding members – discernment

Sanctuary

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This message is a reflection on Psalm 48

1 Great is the Lord, and most worthy of praise,
in the city of our God, his holy mountain.

2 Beautiful in its loftiness,
the joy of the whole earth,
like the heights of Zaphon is Mount Zion,
the city of the Great King.
3 God is in her citadels;
he has shown himself to be her fortress.

4 When the kings joined forces,
when they advanced together,
5 they saw her and were astounded;
they fled in terror.
6 Trembling seized them there,
pain like that of a woman in labor.
7 You destroyed them like ships of Tarshish
shattered by an east wind.

8 As we have heard,
so we have seen
in the city of the Lord Almighty,
in the city of our God:
God makes her secure
forever.

9 Within your temple, O God,
we meditate on your unfailing love.
10 Like your name, O God,
your praise reaches to the ends of the earth;
your right hand is filled with righteousness.
11 Mount Zion rejoices,
the villages of Judah are glad
because of your judgments.

12 Walk about Zion, go around her,
count her towers,
13 consider well her ramparts,
view her citadels,
that you may tell of them
to the next generation.

14 For this God is our God for ever and ever;
he will be our guide even to the end.

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Psalm 48 centres on Zion – God’s sanctuary, the temple, the City of our God, the Holy Mountain, the fortress. I will refer to Zion as God’s sanctuary from here on.

God’s sanctuary is inhabited by God, the Lord, the Lord Almighty, the Great King.

God’s sanctuary is a feminine space – the feminine pronoun ‘her’ is used eight times to emphasise the feminine character of the sanctuary. It is something like a womb – a safe, protective, nourishing and nurturing space. The enemies of God experienced pain like that of a woman in labour, but for those who dwell in the sanctuary, it is a womb.

God’s sanctuary is a place of refuge and safety – a sanctuary.

In God’s sanctuary, there is beauty, joy, security, meditation, unfailing love, God’s right hand, righteousness, rejoicing, gladness, our guide, God, for ever and ever.

God’s sanctuary is the place we are invited to enter: Walk about Zion, go around her, count her towers, consider well her ramparts, view her citadels.

God’s sanctuary is where we can retreat when things get on top of us, when we feel pressured or burdened, when we are worried or distressed, when we’re afraid, when we need replenishing, when our faith founders, when life’s adversities are too much, when we are alone. The sanctuary is God’s place, God’s grace.

Music to listen to while reading Psalm 48

Featured image of a labyrinth in a forest from: https://www.thedailyworld.com/life/creating-a-sanctuary-breathing-peace-into-this-challenged-world/

Mental health

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This message is not so much a sermon, but rather a ‘talk’, about mental health. It emerges from Mark 1:21-28, where Jesus exorcises a demon and makes a ‘madman’ well. In Jesus’ time, most manifestations of psychological problems would have been interpreted in spiritual terms – a demon was at work. Today, there would be a tendency to define those same manifestations as psychosis, using psychiatric, medical terminology. Perhaps both have some truth.

The human has long been understood as a tripartite being, comprising body, mind (or soul) and spirit. This implies a sense separateness within a person, where these three parts operate separately:

But rather, these three parts are closely interacting, with the body and mind influencing each other, the mind and the spirit influencing each other, and the spirit and the body influencing each other – far more integrated and whole, something like this:

However, despite this integration, when someone presents with a physical (body) problem, like cancer or diabetes, we’d all cluster around and support that person. But if they present with depression, or anxiety or schizophrenia, we would tend avoid them, to speculate, to judge, to question their faith, and so on. We generally treat psychological problems differently from physical problems, even though they are interconnected. Psychological challenges tend to be stigmatised, even today.

The interconnection or integration I’m talking about is nicely illustrated in the Greek word sózó, which means both healing and salvation. In our New Testament English translations, most of the words ‘heal’ and ‘save’ are the same in the Greek. To be spiritually saved is tantamount to being physically (or psychologically) healed. For example, the woman who had been bleeding for years (Luke 8:43-48) was sózó – she was both healed and saved, and she was also restored into a harmonious place within her society (which stigmatised menstrual blood). Many English translations say she was was ‘made whole’ – that’s a good translation!

At this point in my message, I related my own experiences with depression, brought on a combination of genetic and environmental factors, that had me in psychotherapy for many years, on antidepressant medication for several years, and in a psychiatric hospital for a month. I am not going to type this up here. It is in the recording, and I’d rather you hear my story verbally than in writing. It is not essential to this message, but it does provide a first-hand account of mental illness, and recovery, and continual working on maintaining my mental health – I think of myself as a depressive in remission. This starts at about 27 minutes into the video recording and about 6 minutes into the audio.

In my recovery, two books were very meaningful to me, and might be to you:

I hope that this talk about mental health and my personal sharing about my own depression will be helpful to you in a few ways:

  1. I hope this helps to destigmatise mental illness, because although I have had quite severe mental illness through many years of my life, I have also done quite well in life and feel that my life is good and meaningful. If you find yourself struggling with mental illness or struggle, I hope you will be less judgmental towards yourself and your symptoms, and more open and kind to yourself. And similarly towards others.
  2. I hope this helps you become more self-aware and to self-care more. Jesus commands us to love God and to love our neighbour as you love yourself (Matthew 22:39). This last phrase is not a commandment, as such. There is a tendency among Bible scholars to assume that all people love themselves, even too much. But in my practice, many do not love themselves; people suffer from low self-esteem and even self-loathing. We should love ourselves more – like putting on the oxygen masks in the aeroplane before you help others.
  3. I hope this helps you to pray and read the Bible more. These practices are about creating space for God to be present in us, and for us to experience God’s presence. John writes about the desire that we should experience life, and life abundantly (John 10:10)! Psalm 23 speaks of a table, a feast, prepared for us.
  4. I hope this encourages you to seek help when you are suffering from mental health challenges. You can do this by asking your priest or minister for prayer and anointing – this part of the contribution that the church can offer you, in line with James 5:14-16. You can do this also by seeking therapy from a psychologist or clinical social worker. And you can to this by seeking medication from your GP or a psychiatrist.

I ended this talk with a 2-minute prayer for those who have listened to this message, and I encourage you to listen to or watch this prayer. It start a little after 47 minutes into the video and a little before 27 minutes into the audio recording.

Image from https://www.hypresslive.com/2024/01/18/breaking-the-mental-health-stigma-in-the-workplace-in-2024/